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The Beauty of Being Single

  • Heather Miller
  • Oct 2, 2013
  • 4 min read

“When I’m in high school, I’m gonna date the cutest boy and we’ll fall in love and get married and have three kids and a little cottage with a huge yard and a garden to play in with our dogs.”

Does this sound familiar to anyone else? This was one of my dreams as a child. I wanted to hurry and grow up so I could start looking for Mr. Right.

I saw my high school dating career like this: It’s the first day of school and I’m walking into the high school cafeteria. The really cute captain of the football team would notice me. ME. Can you believe it! Our eyes would meet and I’d look away, smiling shyly. Next thing you know, we’re dating. We’d date all through high school and college, get married, have kids, and grow old together. It’s perfect!

Well, I’m 19, in college and still single. But you know what? That’s perfectly okay.

I’ll admit, it’s hard being single sometimes. Especially with all my friends being in relationships or having someone to “talk to”, the Friday nights spent on my couch alone with a movie and popcorn, and seeing the Instagram photos of my coupled friends using hashtags like: #ManCrushMonday and #WomanCrushWednesday.

BUT GUESS WHAT! I’m still single and I’m still okay. I’m still breathing. I’m. Still. Alive.

What does being single really mean? It simply means that God has not brought that perfect someone into your life yet. It means that God is shielding your precious, fragile heart from being broken and beaten by someone who doesn’t even deserve it in the first place. It means that God is using this time to prepare you for that special someone and build a stronger foundation with Him.

So what can we do about being single? Embrace it!

God is giving you this time of being single to be still and rest in Him. To trust Him. To discover who you truly are through Him. Being single has helped me to grow so much closer to God!

Story time:

When I was a sophomore in high school I started to date a boy. My time, focus, and energy was on him. ALL THE TIME. If I wasn’t around him I was thinking about him and texting him constantly. I was becoming very bitter at home and lashing out at my family over stupid, little things. I was straying away from my close friendships. I wasn’t leaving any room for God. Well sure enough he ended up breaking up with me 3 months after we started dating. And that was the end of my high school dating career.

I cringe every time I think of that relationship. That was definitely not the kind of relationship God had wanted me to be in. I was so far from God that when the relationship ended every shred of confidence I had was ripped away leaving nothing but insecurities.

Sounds devastating right? It actually wasn’t. (Okay, at first it was because it was my first “real” heartbreak.) But thanks to that relationship I have an even stronger relationship with God now. It brought me to my knees and made me realize the beauty of being single and taught me to put my trust in God to bring that guy to me.

Before, I would maybe pray before I went to bed and I hardly ever touched my Bible. Now, I’m constantly talking with God and studying His word. I love asking Him questions, presenting Him with my problems and watching Him take care of them, seeing what He has to say in the Bible, and just realizing the simple pleasure of being with Him. There is nothing more peaceful than sitting quietly in His presence, praising Him!

He also has shown me that my family and friends are some of the best relationships I’ll have right now. When it all comes down to it, I know my family and friends will always be there for me. Allowing God to take away the stress and worry of trying to find someone has helped me grow closer to them. He’s giving me time to make special memories with them. And I’m definitely taking them! He’s been laying a good foundation of all the important relationships I do have in my life right now. I actually have time to spend with them and get to know them better. And because I’m closer to Him, I’m also closer to my friends and family.

So long story short, it’s perfectly okay to be single! It doesn’t mean you’re ugly or not worth it! It means God is taking the time to prepare you and lay a sturdy foundation in your life so that when you do meet that special someone you’ll be ready. In the meantime, just find the simple pleasure of being single and walking with God! And take a deep breath because God has got your life under control!

“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.” Proverbs 3:5-6

“I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.” John 16:33


 
 
 

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