A Woman Worth Pursuing

Recently I posted a blog called “What A Girl Wants” talking about what godly girls look for in a guy pursuing a relationship. But then I thought, “What about us?” What does it look like on our end? What should we (as women) do while being pursued or while waiting to be pursued?

Stand firm in your faith.

Like I told the guys in my last post “To get a godly girl you need to be a godly guy”. It’s the same for us. To get a godly guy we need to be godly women. That’s why you need to be firm in your faith. Walk with God consistently, study His Word and promises, and pray that He guards your heart and mind from the grasps of Satan. Stay pure in everything you do. Tell God what you’re feeling throughout the entire thing. Allow God to pursue your heart first.

Standards.

I’m going to tell you a little secret: It’s okay to have standards. I have them. My friends have them. I get told all the time to let some of my standards go because I seem too picky. But I’m not. God has told me that He has the best planned for me because I deserve it. I know who I am and what I deserve. I have them as guideline so that I don’t end up settling for less than what God has for me. And let me set the record straight by saying that standards are not my way of saying I only date guys who are tall soccer players with an accent. To me standards say that I’m seeking a man of God who will be the spiritual protector and provider for me and my family one day.

Know who you are in Christ.

This one is so HUGE! It is so important to know who you are in Christ before you date someone! Every single woman was designed in a beautiful, unique way. You were designed in a beautiful, unique way. Allow God to whisper these promises to you, read His Word, walk with Him! Know who you are so that Satan can’t get his lies into your heart. Knowing who you are in Christ will bring a beautiful, glowing confidence into your life. It will allow you to look at yourself and see the beautiful person God has designed you to be.

Modest is hottest.

One important thing to remember is that the guy pursuing you (along with every other guy around you) is still your brother in Christ. What does that mean? We need to be able to encourage and help them in their walk with the Lord too. Dressing in short, skin tight, low cut clothing is not the way to do that. If anything, that discourages them because it is a distraction. They’re still human and Satan can easily get ahold of them just like he does with us. Now don’t get me wrong. I love fashion and cute clothes! But there is a line that has to be drawn. “I also want the women to dress modestly, with decency and propriety, adorning themselves, not with elaborate hairstyles or gold or pearls or expensive clothes.” 1 Timothy 2:9

Be a woman worth pursuing.

In my eyes a woman worth pursuing is a godly, compassionate, classy, confident woman. Someone who is a Proverbs 31 Woman. She knows her identity in Christ so she knows what He has for her. She knows not to settle for anything less. She cares about others and displays the love of Christ everywhere she goes. She will be a supporter and encourager for the man she decides to pursue a relationship with. She prays consistently and relies on God above all else. This is the type of women the world needs to see more. This is the type of woman worth pursuing.

“She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come.” Proverbs 31:25